Week 24 – Going It Alone

This journey has been amazing. I have traveled it with many like-minded folks,  it in reality I have traveled it alone.

That’s perfectly fine with me, because we are ultimately alone all of our lives. And guess what? I am okay with that. Traveling on this journey alone and together has made me more connected and more understanding of what and who I am. I know now what I want, and when I want it by. I know how I am going to do it. But it willl require focus and discipline and working on me each and every day.

My future posts will reflect more on topics to help others, because that seems to fuel me.

If you would like to experience this journey in your future, just reach out to me here and I will make sure to let you know when the next workshop begins. Hint, hint, it’s only offered once a year.

Stay well. Love yourself. Because in the end your life is truly mind over matter.

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Week 23 – Failing to Succeed

Are you this person?

The one who never succeeds? Who always fails? Did you know it’s easier to succeed then to fail?

It’s true. We fail ourselves by feeding our minds with all those negative thoughts and fears and doubts. We fail ourselves because we let others influence what our gut is telling us to do. We fail ourselves because we truly don’t have the true mindset that success is something we should have.

_Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another._

We are always looking to validate our own success through other people’s eyes. The only person that you really need to have validate your success, is you.

Let’s face it when we do something half-baked in life, we know it. Yet, we try to convince ourselves we did our very best.

As a Personal Trainer, I see this all the time when I am training clients. Before they start an exercise, they have already created doubt that they can finish or the pain they might have to go through. Instead of becoming determined and believing in themselves, they come up with all sorts of excuses and reasons they can’t do a particular exercise.

It is fantastic to witness is when that switch is turned on.

Which brings me to one of my clients who I will call April. April joined me last September in a group fitness class. The very first day, she nearly passed out and had to sit down. She told me she couldn’t breathe, her feet and knees bothered her. I didn’t expect to see her return after that. But the next week she was back and I only heard her complain and worry once or twice. She still had to sit down and rest but she started to believe in herself. I kept telling her “you can do it”, “you got this” “I know you are strong” “I believe in you”

Fast forward 9 months later. Now I call April the Beast! She comes to class with gusto, never misses a training session and even helps others. Even her friends have noticed the changes. She is getting that validation from the outside, but the real validation is watching her in action. She believes in herself.

You see April didn’t believe. It was easier for her to worry, fear and excuse herself then to embrace success. The transformation was and is amazing to watch. It’s why I love what I do and I continue to be passionate about getting people to move. It’s the reasons I pursued my dream of become a Personal Trainer later in life because I knew I could help others.

So the next time you are trying something new, or jumping outside of your comfort zone, remember to turn that belief switch on. What we think will manifest and it’s easier then you think.

Succcess is easy if you just let it in.

 

Week 22 – Turning Negative into Positive

We often associate emotions and feelings that are highly charged as being a negative part of our life.

Think about it. Have you ever gotten so angry at something or someone that you want to scream. Or you do? Do you find that you spend days riddled over guilt because you said or did something that hurt someone’s feelings. Was there a time you didn’t feel good enough or unworthy of something or someone?

FEAR

It turns out all of these charged up feelings can help you in a positive way.

They create action or energy inside of you and lead you to where you need or want to go.

Now I’m not saying everyone should go out and yell at someone else. Or make them feel badly. Or feel regret or guilt. But there is something to be learned in every situation you encounter and every relationship you have.

Think about it. When you are frightened of something, do you think about anything else? Definitely not. You are single focused without any distractions in your thinking. Imagine if you can use that same thought process to do something you want to do. So fear shows us how we can be laser focused on one thing. And then there’s my personal favorite, guilt. Guilt actually shows how to make ammends and then we modify how we behave. And that’s all good.

So looking at each and every feeling or emotion we have can actually help us and change the way we act. And turn a negative action, feeling or thought into a postive outcome and step towards a better you.

The next time you are highly charged or feeling blue. Try to turn that feeling into something positive. You will be amazed by where the journey can take you.

 

Week 21 – The Power of Today

Rising with the Tide

Why are you worrying about tomorrow? Why are you fretting over yesterday.

The power of your life is the moment right in front of you. Every single minute counts and most of us don’t appreciate it nor use it to the fullest. We are caught up in the minutes of overthinking, old habits or even worse worrying about something or someone that we can’t control.

Instead of spending all the wasted moments on things that are done or haven’t happened or someone else, refocus your time on you.

It’s so simple, most people don’t even understand it. If you spend time enjoying the moment, or day, you will be so much happier and at peace.

I didn’t believe it could happen. But now that I have spent over 20 weeks working on my thinking and understanding what a waste of time all of “if only…” or “I hope…” time, I just enjoy the day and the moment that is right in front of me. Who knows, it could very well be my last moment or day. And wouldn’t it be a shame if I didn’t take full advantage of it?

So ask yourself, what are you wasting your time on? Or who are you wasting yout time on? If you can simply redirect your energy to being in the moment, everything around you gets better and easier too.

If you’re going to see family, instead of falling into the old traps and relationships, really enjoy the good moments, the stories and the love. If you have a new stressful job, find the fun in the learning. If you are working out, see what you can do to get further then before.

Stay present. Focus on what’s right in front of you. And you will find every day is full of love and miracles

Peace and happiness. Enjoy the journey.

 

Week 20 – The Will To Succeed

We all want to succeed.

But what does that really mean? And how do you get there? And how is it measured?

First let’s define what will means. Having the will is having passion about something. Not only do you believe it with everything, but you are driven to action. People today that are successful, don’t just get there by chance or luck. Well, maybe a few do. But that’s not the norm. Most people have to work at it. In other words having the will means taking the action necessary to acheive what you want or need.

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Having the will = action you have taken.

Think about someone who excels as an athlete. He/She didn’t just decide to be a 400 metre track star. They had to work at it day after day after day. When their friends were out wasting time on their cell phones or gabbing with friends, they were running, sprinting, stretching and had razor-sharp focus on what success looked like to them. Getting the edge, or being successful boiled down to less then a second for their success! The difference between the win, or just finishing.

So the end game is having the will to succeed is NOT enough. You also have to take the necessary action to acheive the results you dream about every day.

You are not entitled to play the blame game about your lack of success. If you are really, really honest with yourself you will discover where and what you didn’t do and what you need to do better.

It doesn’t mean you can’t be happy. Just don’t be the person who cries when you aren’t where you want to be. There are plenty of happy people who don’t have the will.

So pick a goal you are passionate about, get disciplined, focus, think it, breathe it and imagine it all the time. Create the will, take the action and get the passion inside of you and you will succeed.

Week 19 – How to Follow Your Bliss

Find Your Bliss.

Have you found your bliss?

Many of us never find bliss. And that’s very sad, because finding it will make you content. Being content and really loving who you are, what you do and whom you do it with will change everything in your life.

Ask yourself what really makes you feel alive? It is spending time outside on a hike? Spending time with your family members? Doing a Spartan Race? Or expressing yourself creatively?

You see we are all very different. The experiences or things in life that make us truly content and happy are unique to us. None of us are the same. We don’t walk or talk the same way. We don’t think the same way. So why would we find bliss the same way?

I can tell you one thing. Most of us never even experience bliss.

We get side-tracked by acheivements or owning something or even a fabulous vacation to some place even more fabulous. It is not any of that which makes you content. It’s the deep breath you take when you watch the waves crash on the ocean, or the rain hitting the rooftop in a summer rainful. It’s the first cup of coffee in the morning. It’s reading a great book or listening to awesome music.

I have a top-ten list of the things or experiences that make me really happy and at peace. One of my top-ten, is drinking my morning coffee at our lake home on the back deck. Another is driving my convertible with the top down by myself with the music cranking while I drive a country road. You get the idea.

When I’m having a stressful day or time, I try to imagine myself in one of those places and it calms me right down. I don’t even have to be there. Just thinking about it and feeling the feelings works wonders.

So dig deep, and find out what makes you truly happy and at peace. Once you do, make sure you do more of that and less of the stuff that you don’t enjoy. Once you find your bliss, follow it. I know that’s where I will be today and in the future.

 

 

 

Week 18 – The Honest Truth

So the question you need to ask yourself is how honest are you when it comes to you?

It’s an interesting question. And it doesn’t seem to have one perfect answer. We claim we are being honest with ourselves when it comes to doing something or being somebody, but most of the time we aren’t.

We’ve all heard it before, most successful people do the things, that other people won’t or don’t do. And honestly, that’s the truth.

honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdomThose individuals who acheive a goal aren’t more talented then you, or smarter then you. They are just more persistent and are honest with themselves about what they did to get there. Do you get this?

Keeping yourself on track with your goal in mind and doing the things required will eventually get you where you go. The question you have to ask yourself is, have you done what you were going to do? Or did you do it for three or five days and then give up? And then do you access blame to something because you didn’t do what you needed to?

I’ve had many people tell me that the company I work with, which happens to be in network marketing arena, doesn’t work. Guess what? The business plan works. The products work. You know who doesn’t work? You guessed it, those people don’t work. And if they were honest with themselves they would see where they failed themselves.

The same is true when it comes to eating. Over the years I have worked with many clients who want to lose weight. Believe me as a personal trainer and a life-long eating addict, I’ve heard and seen it all. These dieters swear this is the last time they are going to diet. But I can almost guarantee you that those dieters are not being honest with themselves with there eating.

Let’s be honest here. Nothing will work if you don’t put the time, effort and true passionate commitment into it.

Did you meet your spouse and not have to work at the relationship? Did you raise children and not have to teach them how to be kind and decent human beings? Did you have to educate yourself in a skill or task to be good at your job?  Be honest. You had to do something to make those things happen.

The best way to move forward is to take a good hard look at yourself. Look in the mirror and be honest.

If not, you know what you do to make it happen. It’s easier then you think.